Hello, readers. I’m not sure if you’re still out there. My apologies for the lack of blog posts, but my latest career move and my upcoming wedding has forced me to put my mindless ramblings on hold.
Since I last posted, you’ll be happy to know that I haven’t mailed anything that shouldn’t find its way through the US postal service and I now think twice before opening any mail slot. Ah, life’s important lessons.
Onto a new post! But before we proceed, allow me to warn you that its not going to be all giggles…
Over the past few months I’ve come to the realization that some times no matter how hard you try to make someone happy, it will never be enough. The combination of selfishness and insecurity is lethal and if you cross a person who holds this toxic brew, you’re dead… or at least that’s what I initially thought, but I’m slowly coming back to life.
The interesting part of dealing with someone who does not have your best interests in mind is that to remedy the ailments they bring, you need a dose of good. Plain, old fashioned GOODNESS.
Now “good” comes in many forms. For those less serious run-ins with selfishness and insecurity, “good” could be a soothing can of Diet Coke. It can be slow drive down a peaceful street. Heck, it could be a manager from Chipotle calling you to inform you that your business card was plucked from their fishbowl and you won 10 free burritos (take it from this TWO time winner).
But in serious situations, the Big Kahuna issues, goodness is in the form of a person, a supportive person. (And no, the Chipotle manager, god bless his soul, is not the kind of supportive person I’m talking about although my veggie fajita burrito never lets me down.)
After recently experiencing the effects of selfishness and insecurity, I was prescribed two healthy doses of “good” – I believe the technical name for the prescription was “mom and dad.”
Awww… makes you want to vomit a little, right? Daughter runs to parents for comfort. How typical. How nauseating.
Puke all you want, but as an adult, I turned to the two adults that are by far the most secure and selfless people I know. And yeah, they happen to be my parents. You do realize that it’s not required for parents to care about you, right?
I wasn’t even fully aware of the extent of my parents’ healing powers until I was faced with a situation that made me feel helpless and utterly confused. And it wasn’t the advice or the comfort they gave me that helped wrap my wounds, it was their underlying goodness that has made me remember that people do care about me and care about others in general. To be honest, I’m sick of talking about issues and trying to figure out solutions, so hearing my mom gush about my latest home renovation or having my dad give me a random, funny, flying high five, is that kind of goodness that heals someone’s heart when it’s in the process of breaking.
Since I last posted, you’ll be happy to know that I haven’t mailed anything that shouldn’t find its way through the US postal service and I now think twice before opening any mail slot. Ah, life’s important lessons.
Onto a new post! But before we proceed, allow me to warn you that its not going to be all giggles…
Over the past few months I’ve come to the realization that some times no matter how hard you try to make someone happy, it will never be enough. The combination of selfishness and insecurity is lethal and if you cross a person who holds this toxic brew, you’re dead… or at least that’s what I initially thought, but I’m slowly coming back to life.
The interesting part of dealing with someone who does not have your best interests in mind is that to remedy the ailments they bring, you need a dose of good. Plain, old fashioned GOODNESS.
Now “good” comes in many forms. For those less serious run-ins with selfishness and insecurity, “good” could be a soothing can of Diet Coke. It can be slow drive down a peaceful street. Heck, it could be a manager from Chipotle calling you to inform you that your business card was plucked from their fishbowl and you won 10 free burritos (take it from this TWO time winner).
But in serious situations, the Big Kahuna issues, goodness is in the form of a person, a supportive person. (And no, the Chipotle manager, god bless his soul, is not the kind of supportive person I’m talking about although my veggie fajita burrito never lets me down.)
After recently experiencing the effects of selfishness and insecurity, I was prescribed two healthy doses of “good” – I believe the technical name for the prescription was “mom and dad.”
Awww… makes you want to vomit a little, right? Daughter runs to parents for comfort. How typical. How nauseating.
Puke all you want, but as an adult, I turned to the two adults that are by far the most secure and selfless people I know. And yeah, they happen to be my parents. You do realize that it’s not required for parents to care about you, right?
I wasn’t even fully aware of the extent of my parents’ healing powers until I was faced with a situation that made me feel helpless and utterly confused. And it wasn’t the advice or the comfort they gave me that helped wrap my wounds, it was their underlying goodness that has made me remember that people do care about me and care about others in general. To be honest, I’m sick of talking about issues and trying to figure out solutions, so hearing my mom gush about my latest home renovation or having my dad give me a random, funny, flying high five, is that kind of goodness that heals someone’s heart when it’s in the process of breaking.
Another dose of goodness I received was an email that radiated excitement about my upcoming wedding. Even through her emails, my best friend has a way to type seemingly flat words that are read with so much enthusiasm. Her support, her goodness, came in the form of “enough about THEM, lets talk about YOU.” For a moment, my world lacked positive punctuation, and then she appeared in my inbox referring to something about my life with so much “!!!!!!”, that I couldn’t help but to get excited too. Pure goodness.
Everyone is either going through a hard time or knows that someone is going through a hard time. My advice for those who are going through something difficult is to find the “good” and seek the “goodness” in others. However, remember that goodness is not buried under insecurity or guilt, pure goodness, the “real good stuff” is right on the surface, you can’t miss it.
I would also ask for people to become someone’s “good” and give them the support they need in the form they need it. If you’re like my parents or like my best friend, you’re probably most likely giving someone the remedy they need without even knowing it.
So as I heal, I’ll continue to pop as much goodness as I can, and I encourage everyone to get their hands on a dose because you never know when you’ll catch someone else’s nasty case of selfishness and insecurity. Because remember, no matter how often you wash your hands, an irrational person is a viral problem that will always get you down.
Everyone is either going through a hard time or knows that someone is going through a hard time. My advice for those who are going through something difficult is to find the “good” and seek the “goodness” in others. However, remember that goodness is not buried under insecurity or guilt, pure goodness, the “real good stuff” is right on the surface, you can’t miss it.
I would also ask for people to become someone’s “good” and give them the support they need in the form they need it. If you’re like my parents or like my best friend, you’re probably most likely giving someone the remedy they need without even knowing it.
So as I heal, I’ll continue to pop as much goodness as I can, and I encourage everyone to get their hands on a dose because you never know when you’ll catch someone else’s nasty case of selfishness and insecurity. Because remember, no matter how often you wash your hands, an irrational person is a viral problem that will always get you down.
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